Frequently Asked Questions...
Who to expect?
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Is this a legitimate service?
Absolutely... Even-though I am not registered, I maintain a high level of cleanliness and sterilization of all my equipment. I use only pure unscented coconut oil for its Anti-microbial properties. There are substantial health benefits to the type of healing relaxation massage I perform. What I am offering is a relaxation massage, and like all massage, includes physical elements of sensual touching with different levels of sensuality and there can be an erotic enlightenment if you so desire. There is a very intimate aspect to what I do, but I am not selling sex, nor should you be expecting or assuming that sex is what you are coming for.
I specialize in relaxation and hot stone massage with an element of sensuality and eroticism, the amount and depth of which may vary based on our respective comfort level needs and desires.
By contacting me you agree to and understand the above statement.
I specialize in relaxation and hot stone massage with an element of sensuality and eroticism, the amount and depth of which may vary based on our respective comfort level needs and desires.
By contacting me you agree to and understand the above statement.
Do you do massage for men?
In short form, the answer is no, I don't. My client consists of women and couples, I have, on occasions, offered massage for men when a healing element is the objective but I find that the energy is not as it should be as I am an heterosexual man. It is important to note that Tantra is about connectivity and sensuality which in itself is not limited by gender stereotype. Having said that, it's important to note that my sexual orientation and physical attraction is towards women.
What type of oil do you use?
I use only pure unscented coconut oil kept in a seal container that prevent cross contamination. Coconut oil for massage might be new for western world but it has been around for long in tropical regions. Coconut oil serves as a great massage oil, here are some benefits:
- Anti-microbial properties : Coconut oil has great anti-microbial properties. Medium chained triglycerides (MCTs) are considered to be great in treating various kinds of infections be it bacterial, viral or fungal. Coconut oil key constituents lauric acid and capric acid – both are known to show anti-microbial effect when broken down. So when coconut oil is applied on skin it helps skin get rid of harmful bacteria and fungus which breed on it. Thus saving body from infectious diseases
- Coconut oil has a neutral Ph and is ideal for Yoni massage.
- Healthy skin : Coconut oil has vitamin E in it. Vitamin E is well known to nourish skin and make it smoother and softer. You will find many moisturizer creams and body creams having Vitamin E in them.
What entails a typical massage with you?
No two bodies are the same nor are our needs and preferences, therefore, no two massages will ever be exactly the same either.
The techniques I use are definitely more relaxing and sensual then you would expect from a typical registered massage therapist. There can be an erotic element which isn’t allowed from a Certified or Registered therapeutic massage studio and therapist.
I am comfortable with nudity and prefer to work as such. If you do not want to enjoy such a level of sensuality and would prefer to receive your massage with me fully or partially dressed, you should express such desires when making your appointment.
My massage's aim is to bring out the most from your body.
A relaxation massage is similar to a gentle Swedish massage that uses smooth, gliding movements. The primary purpose will be to help you relax, and the moves are at a slower pace and uses light pressure.
During such relaxation massage, there is less emphasis on working out knots in the muscle tissue and won't cause pain in order to get the muscle to relax. I use the gentle heat of stones and warm pure unscented coconut oil for that purpose.
There are substantial health benefits to a relaxation massage; including, but not limited to, calming the nervous system, promoting a sense of well-being, improving blood circulation and stimulating the body's lymphatic system which carries away waste products.
What's different about my massage is that I combine a complete body massage with sensual touching, I use hot oil and hot stones and a great blend of massage techniques including body to body, feather touch and much sensuality to create the most wonderful relaxing experience. The massage I do usually includes a Yoni masssge. I always recommend you express your wishes and desires as you book your appointment to ensure you get the most out of your time with me. I am very good at stimulating erogenous zones and bringing out pleasures that will leave you completely satisfied and relaxed.
Info I like to share with anyone thinking of booking a session for the first time:
A Tantric session is an experience of being connected at a deeper level and made to feel very relaxed while being brought into a highly sensual state of positive erotic energy.
The session is always meant to be primarily all about you and your wishes and desires.
I am committed to your overall wellbeing and I want you to receive maximum benefit from your experience so I ask that you come with an open mind, a commitment to be real with yourself and a willingness to have a new experience.
The deeper into the session you get, the more I am able to fulfill your wishes and desires and replace negative sexual energy (if need be) with a powerful positive sexual energy which will stay with you.
Having said that, I look forward to hear from you should you have any specific areas you'd like me to address during our session or any limits you would like me to be aware of and respect.
It's important that we feel comfortable in our interaction together therefore if there is anything that I should be aware of, health wise or otherwise, that should limit the type of interaction we share please let me know.
What I tell everyone coming for the first time is that I am very intuitive and I always pay close attention to your body language. When I touch you I can tell what is enjoyed most and what is not. But if I do touch you in any ways that makes you feel uncomfortable and I'm not "getting it" in the moment, please make sure to tell me right away so I can change or stop whatever it is that make you feel uncomfortable. Nothing non consensual should/will ever take place here.
Every sessions are meant to be all about you while respecting your comfort zones.
Tantra is about exploring and enjoying oneself fully and freely, without judgment or preconceived ideas or morals.
The idea and ultimate goal is to get rid of negative sexual energy and enjoying the pleasures of positive sexual energy therefore it’s important to feel and be at peace with everything that’s taking place during the session.
I encourage you, should you feel like enjoying all of your senses, you are free to do so as you feel in the moment. Wether it is touching yourself or my body, talk, ask for what you’d like, how you like it, or just express yourself and your enjoyment... just be yourself and do what comes naturally ...after all, it's your experience for the enjoyment that You desire.
I always keep protection readily available should the moment takes us to a place where it is desired. But it is not something I take for granted and I ask that if you get to such place, please feel free to tell me in whatever ways you’re comfortable. You can simply ask if I have a condom and I’ll understand. Better yet, if you know you want to experience the full spectrum of connection and interaction, including penetration and you would prefer to avoid the awkward moment when you need to ask or be asked for permission which takes away "the moment", please mention this prior to our session. If you change your mind at any times, it's always ok to say no during the session and at any time.
It's important to keep in mind that everything I do I do for you with the understanding that you would tell me if you are not comfortable with anything taking place.
My studio is usually set up with a massage table but a queen size bed set up is also available.
If you prefer one over the other, please let me know at the time of booking a session.
The techniques I use are definitely more relaxing and sensual then you would expect from a typical registered massage therapist. There can be an erotic element which isn’t allowed from a Certified or Registered therapeutic massage studio and therapist.
I am comfortable with nudity and prefer to work as such. If you do not want to enjoy such a level of sensuality and would prefer to receive your massage with me fully or partially dressed, you should express such desires when making your appointment.
My massage's aim is to bring out the most from your body.
A relaxation massage is similar to a gentle Swedish massage that uses smooth, gliding movements. The primary purpose will be to help you relax, and the moves are at a slower pace and uses light pressure.
During such relaxation massage, there is less emphasis on working out knots in the muscle tissue and won't cause pain in order to get the muscle to relax. I use the gentle heat of stones and warm pure unscented coconut oil for that purpose.
There are substantial health benefits to a relaxation massage; including, but not limited to, calming the nervous system, promoting a sense of well-being, improving blood circulation and stimulating the body's lymphatic system which carries away waste products.
What's different about my massage is that I combine a complete body massage with sensual touching, I use hot oil and hot stones and a great blend of massage techniques including body to body, feather touch and much sensuality to create the most wonderful relaxing experience. The massage I do usually includes a Yoni masssge. I always recommend you express your wishes and desires as you book your appointment to ensure you get the most out of your time with me. I am very good at stimulating erogenous zones and bringing out pleasures that will leave you completely satisfied and relaxed.
Info I like to share with anyone thinking of booking a session for the first time:
A Tantric session is an experience of being connected at a deeper level and made to feel very relaxed while being brought into a highly sensual state of positive erotic energy.
The session is always meant to be primarily all about you and your wishes and desires.
I am committed to your overall wellbeing and I want you to receive maximum benefit from your experience so I ask that you come with an open mind, a commitment to be real with yourself and a willingness to have a new experience.
The deeper into the session you get, the more I am able to fulfill your wishes and desires and replace negative sexual energy (if need be) with a powerful positive sexual energy which will stay with you.
Having said that, I look forward to hear from you should you have any specific areas you'd like me to address during our session or any limits you would like me to be aware of and respect.
It's important that we feel comfortable in our interaction together therefore if there is anything that I should be aware of, health wise or otherwise, that should limit the type of interaction we share please let me know.
What I tell everyone coming for the first time is that I am very intuitive and I always pay close attention to your body language. When I touch you I can tell what is enjoyed most and what is not. But if I do touch you in any ways that makes you feel uncomfortable and I'm not "getting it" in the moment, please make sure to tell me right away so I can change or stop whatever it is that make you feel uncomfortable. Nothing non consensual should/will ever take place here.
Every sessions are meant to be all about you while respecting your comfort zones.
Tantra is about exploring and enjoying oneself fully and freely, without judgment or preconceived ideas or morals.
The idea and ultimate goal is to get rid of negative sexual energy and enjoying the pleasures of positive sexual energy therefore it’s important to feel and be at peace with everything that’s taking place during the session.
I encourage you, should you feel like enjoying all of your senses, you are free to do so as you feel in the moment. Wether it is touching yourself or my body, talk, ask for what you’d like, how you like it, or just express yourself and your enjoyment... just be yourself and do what comes naturally ...after all, it's your experience for the enjoyment that You desire.
I always keep protection readily available should the moment takes us to a place where it is desired. But it is not something I take for granted and I ask that if you get to such place, please feel free to tell me in whatever ways you’re comfortable. You can simply ask if I have a condom and I’ll understand. Better yet, if you know you want to experience the full spectrum of connection and interaction, including penetration and you would prefer to avoid the awkward moment when you need to ask or be asked for permission which takes away "the moment", please mention this prior to our session. If you change your mind at any times, it's always ok to say no during the session and at any time.
It's important to keep in mind that everything I do I do for you with the understanding that you would tell me if you are not comfortable with anything taking place.
My studio is usually set up with a massage table but a queen size bed set up is also available.
If you prefer one over the other, please let me know at the time of booking a session.
Same studio set up differently...
My massage studio can be set up with a massage table or a low rising mattress. Both options offers the same ambiance with low light, aroma therapy and a perfectly balanced FengShui. The mattress with lots of pillows is great for Tantra and a more relaxed and free flowing session. The massage table is more therapeutic and offers me as the provider a better, more flexible setting to perform a more therapeutic session but it is still a very peaceful, relaxing and sensual setting. Some people prefers one over the other but it's really a personal choice... why not try both on 2 different occasions and get the best of everything I can offer? different days, different mood... different settings!
What is Tantra? A sensual video presentation and explanation.
The Tantra vision is one of wholeness and embracing everything. Their belief is that every experience, pleasant or unpleasant, can teach a person to become more aware of who they are and how they can expand their mental and physical capacities. For instance, feeling sexual frustration is not viewed negatively in Tantra but rather as an inspiration for reflection. It provides an opportunity to examine one's personal sexual convictions and motivations. Through self-inspection, a better sense of how to improve your sex life can develop. Ideally, these improvements can transfer to all other aspects of life and allow you to lead a more fulfilling existence.
The following videos demonstrate the overall meaning and "feel" of a Tantra encounter. Tantra is not just a matter of enjoying good sex... it is soft and gentle, it is a connectivity that goes deep. It is respectful and loving. Tantra is meant to build each other up and share pleasures and the enjoyment of our sensuality that goes far beyond the physical aspect... Tantra is love shared in pure form...
NOTE: I am not featured in this first video below. I choose to present this video only because I like the way it is presented, I like the beautiful setting and the loving feeling that comes from it. I trust you will enjoy it too. The "feel" of the video is very similar to the "feeling" I work hard to create during all the massage sessions I do.
I am featured in the video about Tantra/Kamasutra further down this page and it includes a Yoni massage and oral sex being performed as well as penetration, therefore viewer discretion is advised.
The following videos demonstrate the overall meaning and "feel" of a Tantra encounter. Tantra is not just a matter of enjoying good sex... it is soft and gentle, it is a connectivity that goes deep. It is respectful and loving. Tantra is meant to build each other up and share pleasures and the enjoyment of our sensuality that goes far beyond the physical aspect... Tantra is love shared in pure form...
NOTE: I am not featured in this first video below. I choose to present this video only because I like the way it is presented, I like the beautiful setting and the loving feeling that comes from it. I trust you will enjoy it too. The "feel" of the video is very similar to the "feeling" I work hard to create during all the massage sessions I do.
I am featured in the video about Tantra/Kamasutra further down this page and it includes a Yoni massage and oral sex being performed as well as penetration, therefore viewer discretion is advised.
Are you familiar with Tantra and/or the Kamasutra?
Yes I am very familiar with both and will be happy to discuss it with you should you be interested in discovering and experimenting with either or both.
What is Tantra?
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Tantra is a mystical subject that, in my personal opinion, is often misunderstood. In fact, it has becomed nearly impossible to define. Tantra is a spiritual, sexual science that is not static in its definition.
Read more about TANTRA on the page Sex Talk... Some people wrongly consider tantra to be obscene and unfit for people of good taste or just another fancy name for causal sex. In reality, tantra is a state of mind two people enter into to become one together without judgement or reservations. I think of Tantra as a form of meditation where two people use their whole body, mind and spirit to "feel" each other's pleasures not only on a purely physical level but also the energy within each other being shared freely in a loving, caring, soothing state of mind. Tantra and our desires for worldly pleasures: Tantra is different from other traditions because it takes the whole person, and his/her desires into account. Other spiritual traditions ordinarily teach that desire for material and /or sexual pleasures and spiritual aspirations are mutually exclusive, setting the stage for an endless internal struggle. Although most people are drawn into spiritual beliefs and practices, they have a natural urge to fulfill their desires. With no way to reconcile these two impulses, they fall prey to guilt and self-condemnation or become hypocritical and fragmented. Tantra offers an alternative path. Oneness through Tantra When we embrace Tantra, we become more "complete." By identifying and stimulating our innate sensual spirituality, we discover parts of ourselves that have been repressed. Above all, we can learn to use Tantric energy for sexual pleasure and awareness. Familiarity with Tantra can help a person enjoy their sex life to its fullest potential. It can help do away with guilt or fear, and Tantra can break down self-imposed or limiting cultural boundaries (as is the case in most Western societies). Tantra teaches us to become familiar with our mystical nature, and when we do so, our boundaries (sexual and otherwise) expand. We enter into new realms of awareness, become empowered and are more fulfilled. In addition, the orgasm experienced in this state of consciousness are incredible, explosive and longer lasting. Tantra is about sexual freedom Tantra is the total surrender of all mental, emotional and cultural conditioning, so that universal life energy can flow through you freely. Tantra not only expands consciousness, it liberates it. Tantra treats sexual energy as an ally, rather than something to be suppressed or discussed behind closed doors. It does not deny sex, in fact Tantra does the opposite by embracing sex. Tantra is the only spiritual practice that states that sex is sacred and not a sin — even outside of marriage. There is a beautiful word for sex in the Sanskrit language, and that word is Kama , which means that sex and love go together; they're undivided and indivisible. Most everyone is familiar with the classic 7th century Tantric scripture, Kama Sutra which deals directly with sex and love. Tantra unites The essence of Tantra is the full expression of existence; a merging with, rather than a withdrawing from, sexual energy. This energy is used as an ignition for firing the body's biological energy system, merging it (and you) with universal energy. In Tantra, sex is used as the cosmic union of opposites, to create the polarity charge that connects with the primordial energy from which everything arises in the universe. In Tantra, sex is the totality of All. I am an athletic male Tantra massage artist offering women and couples Tantric relaxation massage with hot oil and hot stones in a calm Zen studio that will bring you back together as a whole being. The purpose of my massage is to bring healing, peace and complete relaxation to your life. Let your mind go and enjoy the peaceful sensation of simply enjoying being massaged to whatever extent you are comfortable with and needing. Take the time to enjoy the pleasures your entire being; body mind and soul where created to enjoy, together in complete harmony, and experience the Tantra dimension. |
my own Tantra/Kamasutra massage video
The following video is a visually descriptive representation of the possible extend of a Tantra/Kamasutra massage but is not necessarily what you should expect from your own session. In this video I perform a full body sensual erotic massage that includes oral sex, Yoni massage and penetration. Should you have specific requirements or desires in mind as far as the type of massage you would like to experience and/or any limits or boundaries you may have, please feel free to express your own personal wishes and desires so we can have a clear understanding of where the session should takes us.
Full on Tantra/Kamasutra erotic massage video...
Fees
My fees are based on a donation schedule and it is important to note that the donations are for our time spent together and is not payment for sexual favours nor should you expect any such favours . There is an undeniable sensual element to what we do and it can include sexual touching as it is in the nature of Tantra but I am not to be confused with offering "escort services" and I appreciate you not expecting such.
A one hour session at my studio calls for a $100 donation. The recommended 90 minutes session calls for $150 .
I can also come to your home or hotel in the Greater Vancouver area for an additional $50 but I only do such outcalls for a 90 minutes session minimum. Anything over 90 minutes is based on a $100 per hour at 30 minutes increments.
Also, please note that if you book a 90 minutes session, (or whatever length you choose to reserve) you agree to pay for the entire session regardless of any circumstances that may causes you to end the session earlier.
See also Rules and Etiquettes for more info about what's acceptable and what's not.
A one hour session at my studio calls for a $100 donation. The recommended 90 minutes session calls for $150 .
I can also come to your home or hotel in the Greater Vancouver area for an additional $50 but I only do such outcalls for a 90 minutes session minimum. Anything over 90 minutes is based on a $100 per hour at 30 minutes increments.
Also, please note that if you book a 90 minutes session, (or whatever length you choose to reserve) you agree to pay for the entire session regardless of any circumstances that may causes you to end the session earlier.
See also Rules and Etiquettes for more info about what's acceptable and what's not.
Booking an appointment.
I strongly recommend booking early to avoid disappointments. The best way to book an appointment is to ask early about your preferred dates and see if we can secure those time frames for you. Once I confirm our availability for those dates, it is best to apply a $50 deposit to secure this date. This deposit can be done with a credit card or email money transfer.
We require a deposit now as a response to having had too many instance when people make a reservation and don't show up while in the meantime I have told other people I was not available during this particular time frame.
Deposit are non refundable.
You can try and reserve a time without a deposit but you risk to not have that time available if someone else secures it with a deposit.
It is best to give a contact method to be notified in case your time frame has been booked by someone else.
Regardless of wether you applied a deposit toward your booking or not, I will require a confirmation the day of your appointment. If you do not confirm your appointment one hour prior to the appointed time I will consider the time slot available should someone else wish to book that time frame.
We require a deposit now as a response to having had too many instance when people make a reservation and don't show up while in the meantime I have told other people I was not available during this particular time frame.
Deposit are non refundable.
You can try and reserve a time without a deposit but you risk to not have that time available if someone else secures it with a deposit.
It is best to give a contact method to be notified in case your time frame has been booked by someone else.
Regardless of wether you applied a deposit toward your booking or not, I will require a confirmation the day of your appointment. If you do not confirm your appointment one hour prior to the appointed time I will consider the time slot available should someone else wish to book that time frame.
WHY TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR WOMEN IS BEST FROM A MAN
Just like in any other area, the quality and benefit of a Tantric massage for women will depend not on whether the practitioner is male or female, but on their expertise, experience and approach as a professional in this area.
However, you will respond to a Tantric massage differently depending on whether it is done by a male or female practitioner.
And a Tantric massage from a male practitioner will usually work better for you.
ARE YOU A HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN?Then, two questions…it’s understandable you may feel nervous, shy, apprehensive, or you may even have a negative reaction towards men… but:
1) How will you feel when touched sexually by a woman? Will you be able to naturally connect with this experience?
2) What will you achieve by being comfortable with a woman, if you are looking to develop your sexuality as a heterosexual woman?
If the Tantric massage is genuine:
A Tantric massage wouldn’t work for you as well with a woman.
If you are just getting some non-specific massage that is called Tantric for no particular reason, then of course it won’t matter who it is from.
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3 possible reasons why you may feel you should get a Tantric massage from a woman:
1. You think a man would be looking to get some sort of sexual gratification for himself rather than do it for you.
2. You think a woman will know better how to touch your body.
3. You think that with a woman you will feel safer.
I will discuss all those reasons later, at the end of the article. Remember that you are new to this and you are judging from your experience with men. Hopefully I can reassure you that when working with a professional Tantric massage provider such as myself, things are not at all as you imagine in the above issues. You can look at those answers now if you want.
But let’s start with why it makes more sense for a heterosexual woman to work with a male practitioner if you want to receive a Tantric massage.
TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR WOMEN ARE NOT A COUNSELLING SESSION
There are many ways sexuality can be addressed – psychology, Tantra workshops, counselling, educative media – where, indeed, a woman helping a woman makes sense in a “me too” way, and they work excellently if this is the path you choose to take.
If you have chosen a sensual Tantric massage, however, then it is not a lecture or a counselling session – it is about feeling real sexual energy in your body. It’s about a real sexual response in the body and out of the mind. Your practitioner guides your body and your sexual energies respond – this is how you learn and this is how you heal.
Working with a man or a woman is not only about what their intentions are – it’s about what you will respond to on your side.
Maybe someone told you that tantric massage is pressing "buttons" on your body and then you will get the benefit, but that person doesn’t know anything about how a woman’s sexual body works. Too many women have gone to very unprofessional practitioners that don’t do a sensual and heartfelt experience for your sexuality and who just rub your body like a machine, which will make you feel like you’ve had a terrible experience.
If you are treated with a truly alive Tantric sexual touch then your body responds – but your body normally responds a lot more when it is along your natural sexual orientation.
WHY TANTRIC MASSAGE WOULD WORK LESS FOR YOU WITH A WOMAN: If you are mainly or exclusively heterosexual, you may have less response when working with a woman. You may not feel any significant aliveness of sexual energy when you are touched by a woman because it is not a natural experience for you. Sexual energy must flow freely to be effective.
Your body is not a machine, it’s not just about touching certain places or "buttons" mechanically . There is little effect to be achieved this way. You need to feel like a woman – beautiful, sensual, sexual – in an experience that is natural to you.
You will connect with yourself as a woman more when touched by a man. You will respond a lot more to male energy if you are heterosexual. Yes, it may be exactly the same Tantric massage but just the fact that it is a man touching you will make your energy respond in a completely different, natural and powerful way, than if you are touched by a woman.
You may think that receiving a Tantric massage from a male practitioner is unnatural and uncomfortable – but receiving it from a woman may feel even more unnatural for you. Instead of receiving helpful progress in what matters – your response to male energy – you are in effect forcing yourself to explore something that’s not very relevant for you – your sexual response to women.
(Again, unless your own energy is driven by homosexual tendencies,, then such energy may be exactly what you want/need).
Needless to say, this only applies if you are straight. If you are gay you should receive a Tantric massage from a woman.
All in all, there seems to be a suggestion that one can do the Tantric massage for women with disregard for sexual orientation and treat sexual energy asexually. This sounds like a normal holistic relaxation massage and a variety of other therapies, and just the fact that genitals are mechanically touched doesn’t turn it into a Tantric experience.
It is understandable that women might feel nervous about going to a male therapist for a Tantric massage or a Yoni massage healing session but you also want to consider whether you want the best from your experience. It is just a case of choosing someone who seems trustworthy and genuine. You should indeed take good care in your choice and unfortunately genuine male practitioners are rare. Do exercise caution but don’t settle for an easy option that gives less benefit.
Of course there are reasons why women sometimes may believe that receiving a Tantric massage from a man is not desirable and you should choose a female instead.
Generally you may believe all or one of these three things:
1. When giving you a Tantric massage, a man would be looking to get some sort of sexual gratification for himself rather than do it for you.
It may seem logical that only a female therapist will not have some sort of own interest in touching you and will do a Tantric massage dedicated to you. And indeed, in this market there are definitely a lot of dodgy offers if you are looking at the wrong ad. Unfortunately even the more established and respectable looking practitioner can also be found to work without integrity and following their own gratification, so your concern is very legitimate.
Whether it is a long-established practitioner or a newbie one who acts in this way, we are unfortunately talking about bad quality unprofessional Tantric massage and it shouldn’t be performed from that place. There is plenty of bad quality whether it’s with a man or a woman. You get even more ‘goddesses’ and naked ‘therapists’ in female massage parlours, than the dodgy offers from males.
I am a genuine male Tantric sessions provider and I would not have developped a long-term career acting from this kind of motivation without it coming to the surface long ago, and my level of professionalism is obvious from the Testimonials I have received.
One can only make a long-term career by dedicating himself completely to women and their benefit. Only in full one hundred percent service to women can one have a successful practice with long-term returning clients who feel genuine benefit, progress and development. Otherwise this simply won’t happen. I have been offering such services for 8 years now.
Men who genuinely work with female sexuality are few, but I have gotten there by supporting women in what they truly need. I have completed my own journey in sexuality, grounded myself firmly and I certainly don’t operate from the selfish and uncontrolled motivations that you may fear from your general experience with men.
By all means you should have a conversation with your potential choice to get an impression whether your needs are understood and will be focused on. Feel free to reach out to me at your earliest convenience.
2. A woman will know better how to touch your body.
Yes it is true that many men have no clue how to touch a woman but they don’t make a career as experts in female sexuality. You are not looking for an average member of the public, you’re looking for a professional with expertise.
Just because the therapist has a female body too doesn’t mean she will be able to provide you with effective and valuable bodywork.
Women are hugely different and it takes extensive experience to see all varieties and work with them – just judging from your own body doesn’t work. If someone is able to do Tantric massage as genuine work it is not because they have a female body – it is because this person has gained a lot of experience with life, sexuality and their own repeat and regular clients. This goes equally for men and women.
The reality that I’m not afraid to say because it’s true is that often a female practitioner may get less experience with women than a male practitioner. This is because the majority of women who offer Tantric massage, offer Tantric massage for men as well, The vast majority of the clientele is likely to be men, with only the minority being women. The experience with women can be less frequent than that of a male therapist who works exclusively with women. Some female therapists may have extensive experience with women but that is more of an exception than a rule.
In the end, one’s expertise is not defined by their experience with their own body but by their knowledge, professionalism and experience with a variety of clients in their work.
3. With a woman you will feel safer.
It is obvious that with a woman you may feel safer. However, the purpose of the Tantric massage for women is not simply or purely to feel safe – after all the safest place is not to venture anywhere. The purpose is to benefit and to grow. A safe environment is important but you have to consider the value and benefit of the work beyond just safety as an aim in itself.
If your challenge is to feel safe and relaxed with men, to feel more connected with your experience with men, then you will be looking for a safe and supportive environment that will help your progress in that direction. That environment is a Tantric massage from a male practitioner, not from a woman.
As a heterosexual woman you are healing and learning to equip yourself to form a healthy sexual interaction with men. An experience with a woman is completely irrelevant to this purpose. So the biggest healing, learning and the maximum response will happen when you are interacting with healthy and supportive masculinity.
Of course I do understand your needs and desires to feel safe and I can assure you that I offer such a safe environment and can provide references to back this up.
However, you will respond to a Tantric massage differently depending on whether it is done by a male or female practitioner.
And a Tantric massage from a male practitioner will usually work better for you.
ARE YOU A HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN?Then, two questions…it’s understandable you may feel nervous, shy, apprehensive, or you may even have a negative reaction towards men… but:
1) How will you feel when touched sexually by a woman? Will you be able to naturally connect with this experience?
2) What will you achieve by being comfortable with a woman, if you are looking to develop your sexuality as a heterosexual woman?
If the Tantric massage is genuine:
A Tantric massage wouldn’t work for you as well with a woman.
If you are just getting some non-specific massage that is called Tantric for no particular reason, then of course it won’t matter who it is from.
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3 possible reasons why you may feel you should get a Tantric massage from a woman:
1. You think a man would be looking to get some sort of sexual gratification for himself rather than do it for you.
2. You think a woman will know better how to touch your body.
3. You think that with a woman you will feel safer.
I will discuss all those reasons later, at the end of the article. Remember that you are new to this and you are judging from your experience with men. Hopefully I can reassure you that when working with a professional Tantric massage provider such as myself, things are not at all as you imagine in the above issues. You can look at those answers now if you want.
But let’s start with why it makes more sense for a heterosexual woman to work with a male practitioner if you want to receive a Tantric massage.
TANTRIC MASSAGE FOR WOMEN ARE NOT A COUNSELLING SESSION
There are many ways sexuality can be addressed – psychology, Tantra workshops, counselling, educative media – where, indeed, a woman helping a woman makes sense in a “me too” way, and they work excellently if this is the path you choose to take.
If you have chosen a sensual Tantric massage, however, then it is not a lecture or a counselling session – it is about feeling real sexual energy in your body. It’s about a real sexual response in the body and out of the mind. Your practitioner guides your body and your sexual energies respond – this is how you learn and this is how you heal.
Working with a man or a woman is not only about what their intentions are – it’s about what you will respond to on your side.
Maybe someone told you that tantric massage is pressing "buttons" on your body and then you will get the benefit, but that person doesn’t know anything about how a woman’s sexual body works. Too many women have gone to very unprofessional practitioners that don’t do a sensual and heartfelt experience for your sexuality and who just rub your body like a machine, which will make you feel like you’ve had a terrible experience.
If you are treated with a truly alive Tantric sexual touch then your body responds – but your body normally responds a lot more when it is along your natural sexual orientation.
WHY TANTRIC MASSAGE WOULD WORK LESS FOR YOU WITH A WOMAN: If you are mainly or exclusively heterosexual, you may have less response when working with a woman. You may not feel any significant aliveness of sexual energy when you are touched by a woman because it is not a natural experience for you. Sexual energy must flow freely to be effective.
Your body is not a machine, it’s not just about touching certain places or "buttons" mechanically . There is little effect to be achieved this way. You need to feel like a woman – beautiful, sensual, sexual – in an experience that is natural to you.
You will connect with yourself as a woman more when touched by a man. You will respond a lot more to male energy if you are heterosexual. Yes, it may be exactly the same Tantric massage but just the fact that it is a man touching you will make your energy respond in a completely different, natural and powerful way, than if you are touched by a woman.
You may think that receiving a Tantric massage from a male practitioner is unnatural and uncomfortable – but receiving it from a woman may feel even more unnatural for you. Instead of receiving helpful progress in what matters – your response to male energy – you are in effect forcing yourself to explore something that’s not very relevant for you – your sexual response to women.
(Again, unless your own energy is driven by homosexual tendencies,, then such energy may be exactly what you want/need).
Needless to say, this only applies if you are straight. If you are gay you should receive a Tantric massage from a woman.
All in all, there seems to be a suggestion that one can do the Tantric massage for women with disregard for sexual orientation and treat sexual energy asexually. This sounds like a normal holistic relaxation massage and a variety of other therapies, and just the fact that genitals are mechanically touched doesn’t turn it into a Tantric experience.
It is understandable that women might feel nervous about going to a male therapist for a Tantric massage or a Yoni massage healing session but you also want to consider whether you want the best from your experience. It is just a case of choosing someone who seems trustworthy and genuine. You should indeed take good care in your choice and unfortunately genuine male practitioners are rare. Do exercise caution but don’t settle for an easy option that gives less benefit.
Of course there are reasons why women sometimes may believe that receiving a Tantric massage from a man is not desirable and you should choose a female instead.
Generally you may believe all or one of these three things:
1. When giving you a Tantric massage, a man would be looking to get some sort of sexual gratification for himself rather than do it for you.
It may seem logical that only a female therapist will not have some sort of own interest in touching you and will do a Tantric massage dedicated to you. And indeed, in this market there are definitely a lot of dodgy offers if you are looking at the wrong ad. Unfortunately even the more established and respectable looking practitioner can also be found to work without integrity and following their own gratification, so your concern is very legitimate.
Whether it is a long-established practitioner or a newbie one who acts in this way, we are unfortunately talking about bad quality unprofessional Tantric massage and it shouldn’t be performed from that place. There is plenty of bad quality whether it’s with a man or a woman. You get even more ‘goddesses’ and naked ‘therapists’ in female massage parlours, than the dodgy offers from males.
I am a genuine male Tantric sessions provider and I would not have developped a long-term career acting from this kind of motivation without it coming to the surface long ago, and my level of professionalism is obvious from the Testimonials I have received.
One can only make a long-term career by dedicating himself completely to women and their benefit. Only in full one hundred percent service to women can one have a successful practice with long-term returning clients who feel genuine benefit, progress and development. Otherwise this simply won’t happen. I have been offering such services for 8 years now.
Men who genuinely work with female sexuality are few, but I have gotten there by supporting women in what they truly need. I have completed my own journey in sexuality, grounded myself firmly and I certainly don’t operate from the selfish and uncontrolled motivations that you may fear from your general experience with men.
By all means you should have a conversation with your potential choice to get an impression whether your needs are understood and will be focused on. Feel free to reach out to me at your earliest convenience.
2. A woman will know better how to touch your body.
Yes it is true that many men have no clue how to touch a woman but they don’t make a career as experts in female sexuality. You are not looking for an average member of the public, you’re looking for a professional with expertise.
Just because the therapist has a female body too doesn’t mean she will be able to provide you with effective and valuable bodywork.
Women are hugely different and it takes extensive experience to see all varieties and work with them – just judging from your own body doesn’t work. If someone is able to do Tantric massage as genuine work it is not because they have a female body – it is because this person has gained a lot of experience with life, sexuality and their own repeat and regular clients. This goes equally for men and women.
The reality that I’m not afraid to say because it’s true is that often a female practitioner may get less experience with women than a male practitioner. This is because the majority of women who offer Tantric massage, offer Tantric massage for men as well, The vast majority of the clientele is likely to be men, with only the minority being women. The experience with women can be less frequent than that of a male therapist who works exclusively with women. Some female therapists may have extensive experience with women but that is more of an exception than a rule.
In the end, one’s expertise is not defined by their experience with their own body but by their knowledge, professionalism and experience with a variety of clients in their work.
3. With a woman you will feel safer.
It is obvious that with a woman you may feel safer. However, the purpose of the Tantric massage for women is not simply or purely to feel safe – after all the safest place is not to venture anywhere. The purpose is to benefit and to grow. A safe environment is important but you have to consider the value and benefit of the work beyond just safety as an aim in itself.
If your challenge is to feel safe and relaxed with men, to feel more connected with your experience with men, then you will be looking for a safe and supportive environment that will help your progress in that direction. That environment is a Tantric massage from a male practitioner, not from a woman.
As a heterosexual woman you are healing and learning to equip yourself to form a healthy sexual interaction with men. An experience with a woman is completely irrelevant to this purpose. So the biggest healing, learning and the maximum response will happen when you are interacting with healthy and supportive masculinity.
Of course I do understand your needs and desires to feel safe and I can assure you that I offer such a safe environment and can provide references to back this up.
