6 Effects of lack of satisfying sex

Sex can offer a multitude of health and wellness benefits. To name just a few, having sex can be an antidote to PMS symptoms, it can help put you in a better mood (especially if you have afternoon sex), it can boost heart health, and it can relieve symptoms of anxiety. But if having sex offers all of these well-being perks, are there also effects of not having sex or stopping having sex?

Crucially, not every person experiences sexual attraction, so for folks on the asexuality spectrum, the simple answer to that question is a plain-old no. However, if you’re someone who does have sex and, more crucially, wants to have sex, there may be a few effects to know about with regards to not participating in regular sessions.
“Long-term dry spells may predispose [people] to depression, anxiety, and increased stress,” says fertility specialist and board-certified OB/GYN Lucky Sekhon, MD. That’s in large part because our brain is deprived of the endorphins (or happy hormones) released during sex, like oxytocin and dopamine. But there are other ways to boost endorphins if you're not having sex.
Moreover, because sex is a physical act, you can reap benefits of exercise by engaging, says sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. “The longer it lasts, the more often you have it, and the more vigorous you get, the more effect it will have," says Dr. Queen. "It can raise your heart rate and supports blood flow—so it can be good for your heart." Of course, again, in the absence of sex, there are all kinds of lifestyle habits you can stick to in order to benefit your cardiovascular system, so if you stop having sex, you're hardly relegated to decreased heart health.
With that in mind, read on to learn six possible effects of not having sex  according to sexual health experts.


6 possible effects of not having sex, according to sex experts.
1. Experiencing aches and pains
Sex can be an effective remedy for pain, such as menstrual cramps, sore muscles, or headaches.
2. Increase in blood pressure and stress levels
If you’re not having sex or engaging in other forms of exercise, you may see a rise in your [blood pressure and stress levels],  Also, if you aren’t getting ‘that release’, your stress levels may rise, which can cause a decrease in mood.
3. Tightening of the vaginal canal for folks going through menopause
“Long periods of time without regular intercourse can lead to tightening of the vaginal canal during menopause, which can lead to thinning of vaginal tissue and predisposition towards tearing and bleeding during sex,” says Dr. Sekhon.
4. Spontaneous arousal levels may drop
A small 2014 study of 174 people published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality found that engaging in sex on day one actually makes you crave it more on day two.
And according the Dr. Queen, the inverse—that an effect of not having sex may lead you to want less sex in general—may also be true. “For some, this will have the effect that it becomes harder to get turned on, even if you want to.”
5. The pelvic floor may not stay in shape
All human beings have a pelvic floor, and not having sex can compromise its strength. This, in turn, can affect your ability to have and the intensity of future orgasms, says Dr. Queen. “If you try to have one, it might feel weaker, because the pelvic floor pulsing is the source of the pleasurable pulses we feel with orgasm.”
6. Risk of lower quality sleep
“When you experience intense pleasure from sex, the body releases a cocktail of hormones that help you fall asleep,” says Alvarez, specifying that hormones like vasopressin and oxytocin reduce stress in the body and help you fall asleep quickly. After that point, adds Alvarez Story, “norepinephrine and serotonin then help your body get into a flow of REM sleep cycles to help you stay comfortably asleep.”

Who I am.

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Let us begin by being honest about why we are here...

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If you are looking for a massage studio where you pay a fee to simply have sex.... click here.

​What I'm  here for:

• I  provide support for victims of sexual abuse to help find enjoyment in sex again.

• I specializes and concentrate on providing women with a place they can feel safe, secure and at peace to enjoy  a sensual erotic Tantra based massage with the option of  taking it beyond what would be expected from a typical clinical  therapeutic massage studio.
• Provide a clean comfortable place where you can relax and be cared for lovingly in a respectful studio.
• Create a space where you can be real and enjoy the higher level of sensuality and intimacy that's missing in your life.
• Help women and couples enhance their intimacy.
• Work with couples and individuals looking to turn negative sexual energy into positive energy.

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Who comes to my studio?

People who comes to my studio are from all walks of life, aging from 19 to 70's and come for a number of reasons.
I would say that most finds me because they have dealt with a number of frustrations in their sex lives, mostly in terms of intimacy.

A large portion of women who seeks my services are women who have lost their enjoyment for sex and intimacy due to traumatic events in their past which causes them to associate sexual pleasures and touching with negativity for one reason or another. (Mostly due to sexual abuse, rape or other forms of abuse where sex was used in a negative, painful or non-consensual settings.) 

Many have had issues with sexual or other forms of abuse in their lives which prevents them from enjoying intimacy.
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Others are struggling with an unsatisfying sex life in their current relationships (or lack thereof) and looking to fill a need that is important to them in a discrete and very private setting.

Professional women with busy lives and little time for the nonsense of cruising bars or online "dating" that leaves them feeling empty. Come, relax and enjoy the intimacy they desires knowing that they will leave feeling rejuvenated and fully satisfied on all levels.

Most of my regular clients are women who have a healthy sex drive and need an outlet where they can enjoy intimacy and not feel guilty for being real and enjoy what they really want.  If that means to simply enjoying being taken care of without feeling the need to reciprocate in any ways but know that they can if they want to. I take care of myself and my health in every possible way to ensure your health is in good hands. 

Couples looking to improve on their intimacy together and learn more about what Tantra brings or simply to add a little spice to their intimacy and life together.

Some come from very conservative/religious backgrounds and families and feel sexually deprived/neglected and frustrated. Lack of satisfying sex can lead to depression and anxiety. (As described above)

Some couples comes over because the husband has had health issues (causing erectile dysfunction) of all sorts that prevents them from being able to perform and have intimacy with their wives. They understand that the wife still has needs and finding a place and a man they can go to where she can enjoy intimacy in a respectful and respectable setting is hard to find. I offer such a place and it is an honour for me to take on that role and provide such an intimate and personal experience. Being the " surrogate husband" and make her feel loved and respected is my #1 priority .

And there are some who simply need a place to unload a burden that is too heavy to bear on their own and need a listener who will understand and not judge.

We all need human interaction, human touch, ears that listen and someone who will understand and not try to fix you. Sometimes a little cuddling and physical attention/interaction goes a long way to restore the soul. If you feel this way and need a quiet, rejuvenating massage to bring some positive energy in your life for an evening, please feel free to share.

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Tantra is all about connectivity .

​My method of connecting and providing a deeper level of relaxation that promotes healing through sensuality is through my massage and touching. I have developed a form of Tantric massage that combine several elements including a gentle approach to a form of touching that goes deeper then skin deep... I took the time to prepare my studio to create a well balance Feng Shui where peace, love and acceptance can be felt and developed further. I use only pure unscented coconut oil and hot stones and our whole bodies to create something that feels different for each recipient as it is never the same... Our spiritual needs, thirst and desires changes from one day to the next. Our perceptions are influenced by our emotional sates which fluctuate from one moment to the next. So no two sessions will ever be exactly the same....
The sessions we will share will be as unique and individual as your particular needs are in that moment.
Read more about Tantra on the FAQ page

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It's not so much the way I do what I do that matters most. It's the way I make you feel that will stay with you... I'm here to make you feel the best you can possibly feel and I do so with a loving, caring tender touch you will remember for always. 

Feel of Home
My massage studio is in my home. It is meant to make you feel at home, safe and very comfortable. Please note that despite the fact that I called my little Tantra massage studio Vancouver Tranquility Spa, this is not the type of place where you walk into a commercial place with street front signage where you'll find chairs for manicure and pedicure and people milling about. This is a private typically modest Burnaby residence that is well maintained and feels more like visiting a friend. You and I will be the only people here when you come.
The professional aspect.
I always maintain a relaxed yet professional approach to everything I do. I am very intuitive and pay close attention to your verbal and/or body language. I always ask if what I do feels right to you and frequently ask how you feel.

The purpose of my massage
I am a male massage provider (non registered or certified) who provides healing and relaxing sensual massage for woman. I'm located in Burnaby BC and welcome people from all over the world.
I specialize in women sensuality and eroticism. I offer sensual massage geared specifically towards women and my studio is intended to make you fell at ease and comfortable to express the true you as you enjoy being when no one is watching... The purpose of my massage is to provide healing, sensuality and your complete relaxation. It is intended to create a space for you to receive focused attention so that you get exactly what you are needing, wanting and expecting. You can come to soothe your aching body and relax your mind where I can help you attain a long, delicious state of relaxation or help you achieve a higher level of sustained arousal, satisfaction, inner peace and calm.

Are you looking to be touched?
I am the masseur who specializes in relaxation, healing, sensuality and eroticism to bring you the inner peace we all need in this hectic world.

Indulge yourself in an unrushed and deeply relaxing experience.
I combine a complete body massage with a great blend of massage techniques including feather touch sensual massage to create the most wonderful full body massage experience.

I am familiar with both, Tantra and Kama Sutra. Should you be interested in discovering a new depth through Tantra, or experiencing the soul seeking connectivity of KamaSutra, I can certainly lead and bring you there.
I am an easy going man who tends to make everyone feel comfortable, and I welcome couples who are interested in massage either side by side, or one after the other. (Please note: I do not have a female provider to work with me therefore if you’re not comfortable having a man providing the massage, then this service is not for you)
Indulging in the visual aspect and sharing in the moment when your partner being massaged, her (his) body glistening with pure unscented coconut oil under the candlelight as she (he) relaxes and enjoy herself (himself) and is fully relaxed is a fantastic experience....
I encourage you to have an open mind and to leave your worries and hang ups behind when you see me and enjoy a profoundly satisfying experience.

Nudity
Nudity is part of the erotic, sensual massage experience. Since I specialize in sensuality and eroticism, I am comfortable to work in the nude. There is a heighten element of sensuality and eroticism when both the recipient and the provider are equally naked. I always perform the massage in the nude unless I’m asked otherwise prior to beginning the session.

Happy Ending? Not a problem but...Hold that thought just for a moment...

Ask women and you'll hear over and over again that people, men more so, often tend to focus on the orgasm as the ultimate euphoric goal of their intimate time together. I’m here to introduce you to a new approach where the intimacy becomes the path to true healing, intense pleasure and oneness. The orgasm that follow, should it go that far, will be the most natural and all encompassing end that will leave you feeling amazingly relaxed and nurtured, even nourished with love and respect.

What I bring is the idea that orgasm is left out of the equation and we concentrate on the relaxing aspect, the sensuality and eroticism and particularly the intimacy and connection level that comes from a genuine love for life and all that surrounds us.

Removing the focus from the usual goal of orgasm, you can concentrate more on the gentle touching, the caressing, the feeling of bodies brushing against each other, colliding. Actual genital penetration is either post-poned or bypassed all together for everything else or viewed and felt as the union of two souls connecting and joining together in a sensual, suspended way rather then the sexual trust for the man to reach his goal. What I do, all my intentions are to provide you with the pleasures you seek. My own sense of satisfaction grows exponentially with yours and your pleasure is my only focus. Through such practice, both, man and woman, soon discover their body is filled with numerous erogenous zones besides the typical "main areas."

The fingertips and tongue are powerful erotic instruments of pleasure, trust me with using mine correctly over your body to awakens tingling satisfactions otherwise missed when the orgasm via the regular route is the focus.

Experience what it is like to have erogenous zones you didn't know about delicately teased with fingertips, firm hands, lips and tongue and a mixture of hot oil and hot stones.
Feel your fingers, hands feet and toes being pleasantly, delicately taken care of to uncover a tantalizing tactile paradise but gentle enough for pleasure and intimate awakening.
The “bigO” may and often does come…. but in due time and with the profound healing it is supposed to provide.

Are you ready for a real sensual connection and relaxing escape? Go on, give it a try, isn't time you reached for it and treat yourself to something this special?

The Tantra vision in short:
 The philosophy behind Tantra is one of wholeness and embracing everything. The belief is that every experience, pleasant or unpleasant, serves to teach a person to become more aware of who they are and how to expand their mental and physical capacities and enjoyment. For instance, feeling sexual frustrations is not viewed negatively in Tantra but rather as an inspiration for reflection. It provides an opportunity to examine one's personal sexual convictions and motivations and turn negative energy into positive. Through self-inspection, a better sense of how to improve your sex life can develop. With practice, these changes will transfer to all other aspects of life and allow you to lead a more enjoyable, fulfilling existence. Tantra is not just a matter of enjoying good sex... it is soft and gentle, it is a connectivity that goes deeper. It is respectful and loving. Tantra is meant to build each other up and share pleasures and the enjoyment of our sensuality that goes far beyond the physical aspect... Tantra is love shared in pure form...
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Located in Burnaby
Vancouver's Tranquility Spa is near the intersection of Canada Way and Edmonds in Burnaby. Please contact me to get the exact address.
Ask for more information and details based on what you are looking to experience by emailing me.

Shower
A shower is available before or following your session.

To book an appointment, email me or use the form below.

Pricing: A one hour session is $100, 90 minutes: $150.

​For more details, visit the FAQ page 

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